Living With It

The hard part of this kink is that it cannot be done. Nobody grows, nobody shrinks, and no partner, however willing, is forty feet tall. Everything on this page is about what people do instead - and most of it works better than you would expect, because the fantasy was never really about the feet and inches. It is about the feeling of the difference, and that can be built.

Telling a partner

It is one of the easier kinks to confess, and most people find that out only after years of not doing it. Nothing is being asked of them. There is no act, no equipment and no discomfort; you are describing a picture in your head. Say it plainly, say what side of it you are on, and say what you would like from them, which is usually words, or a position, or a willingness to play along for ten minutes. The partners who react badly are almost always reacting to the secrecy, not the content.

Two things help. Pick a tone you can both live with: the gentle, affectionate end is the easy sell, and nobody has to start with the city being flattened. And be honest about which part you actually want. For a lot of people it is being small and held, or being looked up at, or being the one who is careful with something fragile. Those are feelings a normal-sized person can give you. The scale is the costume.

What couples actually do

• Talk. Dirty talk and narrated roleplay carry most of it. One of you describes the scene from your scale while the other answers from theirs. It costs nothing and it is the thing the ASMR channels in the Artists list are selling, so you are in good company.
• Position. One person on the floor, the other standing. Looking up the length of someone from their feet is the shot every piece of art in this genre is built on, and in a room it needs no props at all. Being carried, being sat on, being held against someone's chest with your feet off the ground - all of it reads as scale when the story says so.
• Perspective photography. Phone on the floor, lens at carpet height, partner a few metres back and the "tiny" close to the lens: the camera does the rest. A wide lens exaggerates it. Keep the light on both of you the same and do not let the tiny's shadow fall the wrong way. This is exactly how the first collages were faked, and with two people and a phone you can do it in an afternoon.
• Miniatures. Model-railway figures come in standard scales - about one to eighty-seven for HO, one to a hundred and sixty for N - and a bag of them turns a kitchen table into a city for photographs. Dollhouse furniture does the same for the shrinking side. Nobody needs to know what the figures are for.
• Clothes and hands. Shoes, feet, hands and hair at close range are the giantess at arm's length, and the handheld branch is the single most drawn image in the genre for a reason. A partner who will let you be the thing in their palm, or trapped in a pocket, has given you most of what the art does.
• A headset. Virtual reality is the one place the scale is real to your eyes. VRChat lets two people stand in the same room at different sizes, and the VR area lists worlds built for it, including ones where a tiny can be picked up, carried or put in a jar. A pair of headsets is the most convincing thing on this page, and the most expensive.

Real height, and what it is not

Plenty of people here are drawn to tall partners, and tall partners are not giantesses. A woman who is six foot two has heard every line about it that exists, has usually been asked to stand in a doorway by a stranger, and is not a prop. If the difference matters to you, it is fine to like it, and it is not fine to make it her job. The same goes the other way for short partners and the shrinking side. Treat height as a nice thing about a person rather than the point of them, and if the fetish is the point, say so and let them decide.

Meeting people

The community has always been mostly online and mostly anonymous, and that is still where most of it happens: the boards and archives in the Stories area, Discord servers attached to most artists, and the comment sections under the work. The rule everywhere is the same - use a handle, keep your real name out of it, and do not try to find out anyone else's.

There is also a room with people in it. SizeCon has run since 2016, in person and online, as a weekend of panels, art and socialising for adults who like size; it is explicitly not a sex event, and most people who go say the thing they came for was the sentence "me too", said by someone standing next to them.

Where the lines are

• It is all fantasy. Crushing, vore and the cruel end of the tree are stories about something that cannot happen. Enjoying them says nothing about what you would do, and nobody in the community thinks otherwise.
• Except for animals. Films of real animals being crushed are illegal in most places and banned on every size board, including the ones that allow everything else. They are not part of this, and anyone treating them as the real-life version of a crush fantasy has misunderstood the fantasy.
• Consent is the whole game. Roleplay needs a word that stops it, and the person on the floor needs to be the one who is listened to. Aftercare is not optional just because nobody was tied up.
• If it gets in the way. A kink that cannot be acted on is about as harmless as a kink gets, and for almost everyone it stays a pleasant part of a normal life. If it is crowding out the rest - relationships, work, sleep - the people to talk to are kink-aware therapists, who will not try to cure you of it. The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom keeps a directory of them.

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